Food, mostly. Not like, lots of food. But good food. The kind of stuff that makes your heart happy after it touches your tongue. As half-German and growing up in the South, I’m not a stranger to home cooked meals with lots of sauces and lots of heat.
But I write this as I plan out dinner for this evening and, well, let’s just say that my distraction game is strong.
You’ll notice that a lot of my novels have LGBTQ characters. My experiences as a gay white boy growing up in a military family has really defined how I see the world. In a time when our only role models were to be Jack or Will from Will and Grace or be hyper-sexualized like the boys in Queer as Folk, I had no idea who–or what–I was supposed to be.
And this got me thinking. We live in a world of stereotypes. And I wanted to read characters who happened to be gay. Real and gay. And that was a problem. There are (and, if you ask me, still are) too many attempts at having gay characters with destroyed family lives or mental issues somehow lingering underneath. It’s unfair to characterize us all that way.
This is why I helped to start a GSA (Gay-Straight-Alliance) in the middle school I worked at, and why my husband and I continually support the LGBTQ community in the Seattle area and do what we can to support LGBTQ youth. There are so, so many kids who need the support coming out, being who they are, or being allowed to live in a place that doesn’t label as this or that simply because, let’s be honest here, that’s not them.
That’s not any of us.
So I wanted to add in a link to some of the places and things I care about as a way to get you to maybe think about what and who you support.
An old friend of mine used to have a poster up in his room that said, “No one can do anything, but everyone can do something.” He then crossed out the “can” and wrote over it “should”.
And he’s right. And for that, I say “Thank you, Hank.”
Here are some links to some fabulous groups that helped some of the causes I care about. Check them out and show them some love:
GLAAD – The Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation. They have helped to lead the way to change the public’s view of the LGBTQ community, as well as changing the way that the LGBTQ community looks at itself. Check them out here: http://www.glaad.org/